It is a pleasure to work with men who take the important step in coming to therapy. Traditional gendered roles and societal expectations of men are changing. These changes offer challenges as men come to terms with the issues in a modern era.
As an existential psychotherapist I hold the philosophy that all men who come to therapy are seeking to move beyond limitations impacting their lives and to be open to new possibilities and change.
I have been working predominantly with gay and same sex attracted men including those men who identify as straight yet want to explore their inner world of relationship, fantasies, and beliefs. I provide a service that is discrete and confidential, a space where men can be themselves without judgement.
I enjoy what I do and love how the process of therapy works. I am committed to my journey of psychological wellness and to yours. I like to keep the sessions real and tailored to the client. Being an existential therapist, each client is unique and brings their distinct way of being in the world. I am committed to supporting you to find a way forward to enrich your life
Have you experienced Cheating or infidelity in your relationship? Has your partner cheated on you, or have you cheated on them? Maybe you are suspicious that something is going on. Then, you are not alone. In a survey in the United Kingdom of 1000 gay men, 58% of them said their partner had cheated on them, 51% reported they had cheated on their partner and had suspicions that something was going on outside the relationship.
Once infidelity or Cheating occurs in a relationship, the impact can be devastating. Couples often ask in counselling, “Is it possible for a relationship to survive and move forward when cheating happens?”
Despite today’s advancements, gay men are still struggling to find meaningful relationships. Relationships are challenging and require ongoing navigation through life’s ups and downs. Building lasting relationships for most people is one of the ongoing challenges; however, for gay men, having a mutually respectful and loving relationship is complex.
With the achievements of gay liberation movements along with the decriminalisation of homosexuality, the AIDS epidemic, the legalisation of gay men’s rights, today’s same-sex marriage, discrimination legislation and a wider acceptance, then what stops some gay men from having meaningful and lasting relationships.
Men learn to hide parts of themselves, the correlation between those early experiences of shame is linked to the development of self-reproach and internalised homophobia.
From early boyhood, young gay men learn to hide who they are in fear of being bullied, harassed and made fun of. It’s just as prevalent for men who identify as bisexual, queer, are married, and are same-sex attracted. With the realisation of being different from the crowd, most gay men learn to hide those parts of themselves as unacceptable. Gay men learn to retreat into themselves, to hide parts of their identity from others.
