Counselling and Therapy for Men.

Do you identify as straight, gay, bisexual, or queer and are seeking to talk openly about your issues without judgement or embarrassment?

Talking with an LGBTQI+ therapist who understands could be the answer.

Perhaps you are seeking help and are sceptical about talking with someone. You may be feeling confused about which direction to take, about your relationship or coming out.

Counselling and Therapy help. As an identified and proud LGBTQI+ therapist who understands the importance of open and affirming conversation, I could be the way forward.

More men attend counselling and therapy than ever before. With over 25 years of working with the LGBTIQ+ community, with men individually, in same-sex couples, and groups, Change Happens offers a place to explore your issues in a safe and confidential environment with someone who understands.

Some of the common issues men bring to therapy include:

  • Relationship difficulties include communication, self-esteem, loneliness, mistrust, anger, intimacy, and distancing behaviours.
  • Compulsive self-soothing behaviours, porn use, overuse of dating apps, alcohol, and recreational drug use.
  • Past childhood wounding such as physical, sexual, and emotional abuse?
  • Questions of a future direction or work-related stress impacting a work-life balance?
  • Experiencing being stuck or in a rut, anxiety and depression.
  • Sexuality including identity, kink, ‘coming out’ internalised homophobia or low/high sex drive?
  • Considering an open, poly and non-consensual monogamous relationship?

If you are struggling and want resolution in your life, make an appointment today. I work with men who are motivated for change to happen in their lives rather than just going along hoping things will improve or, simply go away.

Taking time out to talk to a therapist especially for men has moved beyond being a secret, a weakness, or a taboo.  Change Happens will help you to reflect and explore your life, identity, and relationship to help you make the change you want and need.

 

Online Therapy and Supervision Sessions Available

If you are unable to attend my Sydney office in person, online sessions are available using video conferencing.

For those clients who are resident in Australia, live overseas except for United States of America, we can discuss a suitable time to meet. I work with clients both nationally and internationally.

For Therapists and Counsellors:  Online Clinical and Professional Supervision can be arranged. I have been supervising for over 25 years in a range of organisations and clinical settings.

Please contact me to discuss.

 Dr Adam McLean

Adam McLean, Psychotherapist, Supervisor, Group Therapist
Dr. Adam McLean, Psychotherapist, Clinical Supervisor, Group Therapist.

It is a pleasure to work with men who take the important step in coming to therapy. Traditional gendered roles and societal expectations of men are changing. These changes offer challenges as men come to terms with the issues in a modern era.

As an existential psychotherapist I hold the philosophy that all men who come to therapy are seeking to move beyond limitations impacting their lives and to be open to new possibilities and change.  I have been working predominantly with gay and same sex attracted men including those men who identify as straight yet want to explore their inner world of relationship, fantasies, and beliefs.  I provide a service that is discrete and confidential, a space where men can be themselves without judgement.

I enjoy what I do and love how the process of therapy works. I am committed to my journey of psychological wellness and to yours.  I like to keep the sessions real and tailored to the client. Being an existential therapist, each client is unique and brings their distinct way of being in the world. I am committed to supporting you to find a way forward to enrich your life.

 

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