It is a pleasure to work with men who take the important step in coming to therapy. Traditional gendered roles and societal expectations of men are changing. These changes offer challenges as men come to terms with the issues in a modern era.
As an existential psychotherapist I hold the philosophy that all men who come to therapy are seeking to move beyond limitations impacting their lives and to be open to new possibilities and change.
I have been working predominantly with gay and same sex attracted men including those men who identify as straight yet want to explore their inner world of relationship, fantasies, and beliefs. I provide a service that is discrete and confidential, a space where men can be themselves without judgement.
I enjoy what I do and love how the process of therapy works. I am committed to my journey of psychological wellness and to yours. I like to keep the sessions real and tailored to the client. Being an existential therapist, each client is unique and brings their distinct way of being in the world. I am committed to supporting you to find a way forward to enrich your life
Many of the men I work with come out later in life. Some are married to women. Many are fathers. Almost all carry a long history of knowing something about themselves that felt unsafe to name out loud.
Often, they tell me they always knew. Sometimes the knowing was clear; sometimes it was confused by feelings for women and men or buried under the hope that things would somehow resolve themselves.
Coming out later in life is not about dishonesty or failure. In many cases, it was the only way to survive in a world that did not feel safe enough to tell the truth.
When we talk about intimacy in gay men’s relationships, the conversation often jumps straight to sex. But intimacy runs deeper than physical closeness—it’s also about feeling safe, understood, and emotionally connected. For many gay men, emotional intimacy comes with unique layers shaped by culture, identity, and personal history. Challenges often arise when one partner craves emotional intensity and the other prefers space. Research suggests that this is not incompatibility, but rather a call for negotiation. Couples who articulate their needs, engage in small rituals of connection, and focus on attachment security tend to report greater satisfaction.
When we think about intimacy in gay relationships, our minds often go straight to sex. While sexual connection is important, it’s only one piece of the puzzle. One of the most powerful ways to stay close in a relationship has nothing to do with sex at all. What often gets overlooked is the quiet, steady, and deeply nourishing role of non-sexual touch, the kind of everyday physical closeness that says “I’m here, I’ve got you” without needing anything in return.
In response to the increasing use of hook-up apps, Gay Cuddle Clubs have sprung up in London to help men connect with intimacy through non-sexual touch, while intimacy coaches are on the increase in the United States.
