A father-son relationship is complex. Fathers hope to pass onto their sons from their experiences, values of right and wrong, how to be successful and their hope for a full and happy life. They are there to protect and guide their sons into manhood. A healthy relationship is hard to manage and can be fragile. Depending on circumstances the father-son relationship ends for some in rejection, cut off and emotional pain. David’s story “My father … [Read more...]

Belonging as a Gay Man With the internet, online apps and the shrinking visible gay community, the impact on a sense of belonging is threatened. Gay men today are saying they have visibility, inclusion and yet still feel the impact of societal pressure on being different. Belonging is a unique experience. It is associated with a place, people, culture, identity, connection and so much more. Finding your place and tribe is an important aspect of … [Read more...]

To Have An Open Sexual Relationship Or Not - That Is The Question? Not all gay men want an open relationship and are content with a monogamous closed relationship. However,  gay men in a relationship at some point will consider if and when its right for them to have an open sexual relationship. For gay men considering an open sexual relationship, recent preliminary research findings conducted on gay men in an open relationship indicates they … [Read more...]

Homophobia – 'when hating yourself becomes unbearable' You would think today that Homophobia wouldn't be an issue. Despite the advances of acceptance in today's society for men who love men, the case for remaining in the 'closet' is growing. The Secret Self is on the increase. Homophobia arises out of the fear of being discovered, of being different and from heteronormative ideals of how a man should live his life according to conventional … [Read more...]

Do I Love a Narcissist? Have you fallen in love with a narcissist and don't know how to leave? Are you obsessing with the "idealised self" and is it impacting your relationships today? With the increase in mobile phone ‘selfies’ and the ‘selfie stick’, also known as the “narcissi stick”, it's not surprising narcissistic traits are becoming more evident today. When narcissism completely dominates a relationship, almost every area of life is … [Read more...]