Homophobia – 'when hating yourself becomes unbearable' You would think today that Homophobia wouldn't be an issue. Despite the advances of acceptance in today's society for men who love men, the case for remaining in the 'closet' is growing. The Secret Self is on the increase. Homophobia arises out of the fear of being discovered, of being different and from heteronormative ideals of how a man should live his life according to conventional … [Read more...]

Do I Love a Narcissist? Have you fallen in love with a narcissist and don't know how to leave? Are you obsessing with the "idealised self" and is it impacting your relationships today? With the increase in mobile phone ‘selfies’ and the ‘selfie stick’, also known as the “narcissi stick”, it's not surprising narcissistic traits are becoming more evident today. When narcissism completely dominates a relationship, almost every area of life is … [Read more...]

Are you addicted to porn? If you watch porn regularly it's likely you will lose the ability to  fantasise and could experience difficulty in climaxing or maintaining an erection. Ron Garreti in his TED talk says he stopped watching porn, as he believed he was taking part in filmed prostitution with male domination of women and he found his emotional health was suffering. Like other men he was finding it increasingly difficult to be aroused … [Read more...]

Do Men Endure Loneliness Quietly? Loneliness affects everyone. It’s at the heart of what it means to be human – to be in the world with others and yet still feel utterly alone. Existentialists would regard loneliness as being intrinsic to what it means to be human and has a purpose - to discover and accept who we are while coming to terms with our own limitations and need for personal connection. With access to the Internet The inner struggle … [Read more...]

Are Childhood Wounds Driving How You Live Your Life? Childhood wounding can happen as part of growing up and is usually attributed to important influential relationships such as parents and siblings. Wounds include the loss of a parent or both, a parent who is critical, demanding, judgemental; abuse - emotionally, physically, psychologically, sexually; dysfunctional family lifestyle where trauma, addiction, mistreatment, absence or violence was … [Read more...]