For anyone who has an experience of being bullied, there are potential long standing consequences that follow into adulthood. Despite the advances towards inclusion and acceptance of LGBTQI+ people in the wider society, bullying remains an ongoing problem. It is not unusual for clients who come to therapy, as individuals or as a couple, to have experienced bullying in one form or another. Bullying discriminates against those who are different … [Read more...]
Straight Men and Pegging
More and more identified cis-straight men are taking pleasure in a type of anal sex that is taboo in many relationships. Pegging has been around for a considerable time having its claim to fame in the TV series Broad City and yet, remains mostly a secret between men and their partners. The societal pressures and homophobia concerns is that anal play is only for gay men and participating and having pleasure from being pegged is beyond most couples … [Read more...]
Relationship Intimacy: What can intimacy offer beyond sex?
Intimacy is essential for any relationship to thrive and can be confusing at times, with a range of complex emotional responses being experienced. Gay male relationships face intimacy challenges, especially for men who haven't been exposed to significant male role models. When starting a new romantic-fuelled relationship, the experience of intimacy can be immediate. In contrast, some relationships take time for intimacy to develop. When intimacy … [Read more...]
Change we can’t avoid it! Untangling the process of change.
Existentially, change is a condition that all human beings in their lifetime will experience. We can’t avoid it. It captures the essence of what it means to be human. Change, however, as a constant in our lives, is the source of disruption and continuity. We can eagerly embrace change as something that brings hope and expectation of something new while also recognising that change can be a threat, intimidating, and to be avoided. Historically, … [Read more...]
How do Apps Help You Connect and What Are Some of the Pitfalls?
Dating apps have been in use for decades, evolving from their earliest conception of chat room conversations with the expectation to connect with someone and then arrange to meet up. Fast forwarding to today, the apps with their carefully designed algorithms with promises to meet that someone special or more simply for a hook up. They have become popular and sophisticated, meeting a diverse range of expectations that is hard to give up (FOMO). … [Read more...]
