From early boyhood, young gay men learn to hide who they are in fear of being bullied, harassed and made fun of. It’s just as prevalent for men who identify as bisexual, queer, are married, and are same-sex attracted. With the realisation of being different from the crowd, most gay men learn to hide those parts of themselves as unacceptable. Gay men learn to retreat into themselves, to hide parts of their identity and sexual preference from … [Read more...]

Coming together as a throuple can be an exciting time for any relationship. If you are considering moving from an established dyad relationship by introducing a third person or beginning a new throuple relationship, here are some pointers  you may want to consider. Throuples The most common configuration of a throuple is when an established relationship invites a third person to join them. These vary from couple to couple; however, most couples … [Read more...]

For anyone who has an experience of being bullied, there are potential long standing consequences that follow into adulthood.  Despite the advances towards inclusion and acceptance of LGBTQI+ people in the wider society, bullying remains an ongoing problem. It is not unusual for clients who come to therapy, as individuals or as a couple, to have experienced bullying in one form or another.  Bullying discriminates against those who are different … [Read more...]

More and more identified cis-straight men are taking pleasure in a type of anal sex that is taboo in many relationships. Pegging has been around for a considerable time having its claim to fame in the TV series Broad City and yet, remains mostly a secret between men and their partners. The societal pressures and homophobia concerns is that anal play is only for gay men and participating and having pleasure from being pegged is beyond most couples … [Read more...]

Intimacy is essential for any relationship to thrive and can be confusing at times, with a range of complex emotional responses being experienced. Gay male relationships face intimacy challenges, especially for men who haven't been exposed to significant male role models. When starting a new romantic-fuelled relationship, the experience of intimacy can be immediate. In contrast, some relationships take time for intimacy to develop. When intimacy … [Read more...]